Last week we talked about what affirmations are, how they work, and when to say them. We even went through a few examples of some of my earliest affirmations.
This week we’ll get to the really juicy bits: tangible examples of how affirmations helped me.
Let’s dive right in!
In the summer of 2009 I started dating this girl. You know how the story goes…she was smart, funny, adventurous, the whole kit and caboodle. In other words, the kind of girl that would have left me at a loss for words only one year prior.
For a month or so we got to know each other as friends. Make no mistake, I was attracted to her immediately, and the more I got to know her, the feeling only intensified.
So eventually I did the only logical thing I could, which was to ask her out on a date.
When the day finally arrived to take her out, I led her on a scenic hike in Washington Heights (one of Manhattan’s better kept secrets). We found some boulders to sit on, with a spectacular view of the George Washington Bridge and the sun setting behind it.
So there I sat…on the rocks, next to an incredible girl that I was really starting to like, with my blood pressure spiking to unhealthy levels. Part of what made me so nervous was that if I didn’t make a move soon, I would lose my chance with her forever. After all, meekness is not a particularly attractive quality, right? I needed to go in for a kiss.
Right on schedule came my old familiar fears and doubts: “What if she rejects me? What if I scare her away? What if I screw this up?”
But then something incredible happened.
The monkey chatter faded away, and I actually heard one of my affirmations in my head. “I am a powerful, confident man. I know what I want and I go for it.”
I thought “It’s totally fine to feel nervous, because that just means I’m excited and I have a lot riding on this. I got this.”
John Wayne once said: “Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway.”
And saddle up I did.
OK, so that sounded unnecessarily raunchy. But you know what I mean!
The point is, the old Shir would never have been able to stare fear in the face and say “Out of my way!”
The new Shir on the other hand…let’s just say he officially became a badass on that day :).
And now for the 2nd example of affirmations being awesome
Fast forward a year and a half into the future. I was teaching salsa dancing in NYC, and by all accounts, living a rich life. Thanks Ramit for sharing that concept!
The only thing missing was that I wasn’t growing enough professionally. As much as I enjoyed hanging out with my friends, none of them were pushing me to succeed in my career, at least in the way that I was looking for. And you know what they say, you can only go as far as your 5 closest friends. Put another way, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn.
So, I did what anyone would have done with a track record of successful affirmations, and added another one to my list. It was so important to me that I actually put it before all the other ones.
“I am a savvy, successful entrepreneur and I surround myself with others who are better than me.”
About a week after I began saying this, I got an email from Ramit Sethi, who I was already a huge fan of from his personal finance book I Will Teach You To Be Rich.
In his email, he was announcing a new online course called “Earn1K: Earn $1,000 a Month Freelancing.” The price tag was substantial. $1,500 was no laughing matter.
Normally I would have dismissed the offer and said something like “I can’t afford that” or “the timing isn’t right.” However, because I had just begun saying my newest affirmation, I saw it as a sign. Here was a chance to surround myself with other successful entrepreneurs, even if not in physical proximity. The mere exposure to Ramit’s strategies would open my mind to new possibilities.
I decided to take the plunge, and it ended up being the best business decision I have made in my life to date.
In one month I found a computer tutoring client that had an antiquated Excel database desperately in need of an overhaul. Using the new strategies and techniques from Ramit’s Earn1K course, I made a proposal for an initial $2,000 payment to solve the problem. The president of the company took one look at my proposal, and then said “this looks reasonable, let’s do it.”
Within a week, I had a check for the exact amount of $1,000 (you know, the Earn1K per month amount). If that wasn’t a sign, I don’t know what is. I still have a copy of the check hanging on my wall.
What’s even more amazing, is that this one project turned into a 6 month engagement that ended up earning me $70,000. That’s an unprecedented 46 times return on my investment. How’s that for ROI Ramit?
To wrap it up…
Did my affirmation make me $70,000? No.
Did it find this client for me? Not really.
Did it create a frame of mind and a belief system that PREPARED me to identify and seize the opportunity that presented itself? ABSOLUTELY!
One of my favorite quotes is by Louis Pasteur:
“Luck favors the prepared mind.”
And hey, if that’s all affirmations do, than I’m more than happy with that!
Already saying affirmations? Share some with us in the comments. Want some affirmations of your own, but not sure how to phrase them? Write down the negative self-talk in the comments and we’ll try and help you phrase an affirmation that addresses it.
P.S. Here are some of my recent affirmations, which I still recite daily. If they resonate with you, please feel free to steal them!
- I live each day with perfect health, balance, and gratitude.
- I am a savvy, successful entrepreneur and I surround myself with others who are better than me.
- I always operate at maximum effectiveness and efficiency.
- I give everyone uncommon value.
- All women are extremely attracted to me.
- I am immune to all physical ailments.
- I am always expanding my comfort zone.
- I am a powerful, confident man. I know what I want and I go for it.
- I am a phenomenal dancer, and women love dancing with me.
- I always escalate with women I am attracted to.
- I am always performing at my best.
- I am remarkably effective in accomplishing my goals.
- I am compassionate, encouraging, and supportive of myself and others.
- As I love and honor myself, my relationships blossom.
- I leave everything and everyone better than I found them.
- Every moment of every day, I live my life abundantly.
Final note: Don’t get complacent
A potential trap to fall into is staying stuck with the same affirmations. The trick is to identify new negative self chatter as soon as they crop up (and believe me, they always find a way to crop up), and then create a new affirmation that directly addresses it. Another option is to modify existing ones to be more inclusive. The key is to be flexible and adapt as you go.